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Browse NextSelf writing by Binyamin Rutstein.
The Creator did not make a world where relationship only happens in light (goodness), clarity, pleasure, and success. He made a world where even confusion, shame, loneliness, fear, failure, and pain can become places...
From the beginning, the Creator gave Adam and Eve instructions for how to live in relationship with Him, with each other, and with the Oneness behind creation. But when a person lacks emotional awareness, instructions...
"The ego does not always tell a person to stop learning Torah. Sometimes it encourages the student to restrict his studies to abstract Talmudic subjects and to avoid those books that would inspire change [in...
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It comes after the Messianic era (which may be an era that is for 1 day or 200+ years, depends on when all the Jewish people learn to trust the Creator is good and accept the leadership/teachings of the 'Moses' He...
because it explains how to have the most positive relationship with existence. It teaches that the cause of the universe is not blind, random, or emotionally empty. The Creator has free choice, intelligence, and a...
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can keep giving chances because it is not swallowed by the emotion of the moment; it stands high enough to see the person, the failure, the purpose, and the future. Malchus means connecting through distance: 'I feel...
Halacha means [Oral] Torah law: the Creator's instructions for turning faith, love, awe, wisdom, and responsibility into actions that reveal Oneness. Torah law (from the Hebrew Bible) is based on a belief that the...
, "What should a person do to become wise in Torah?" he replied, "He should spend more time studying in a yeshiva, and less time engaged in business", "He must also plead for mercy from Him to Whom wisdom belongs –...
But everyone does. You can believe the cause of the universe is random. You can believe it exists but is too distant or mysterious to know anything about. Or you can believe that what exists within the universe...
like deep awe is often to listen to a nigun. The Alter Rebbe's nigun "Kol Dodi Dofek" is based on the verse: "I sleep, but my heart is awake. The voice of my beloved is knocking." Song of Songs 5:2...
Physics shows that reality is built with order, consistency, and laws. If the universe is reliable, it is reasonable to trust that the Creator, the Cause of that universe, is reliable too. Related guides: "If...
, he carefully explains why Rashi asks certain questions, why he chooses one explanation over another, and how every word fits into a larger method. It is not uncommon for the Rebbe to spend 5–10 pages explaining only...
discussed by Rabbeinu Bachya ibn Pekudah, who published many of his teachings in Judeo-Arabic. One of the ideas he teaches is that every soul accepted its mission before entering this world. Life is not an accident...
Often, it is about healing the patterns that stop you from showing up. The adaptive nervous system learns patterns to help you survive difficult experiences, beginning in childhood. Fight says: "I need to protect...
Every thought comes from one of seven emotional qualities. Kabbalah teaches that each quality can be expressed in a healthy way or a misguided way. A misguided expression is called a fallen spark. _______________...
It means goodness becomes so clear that you feel deeply compelled to make good choices. Your outlook on life and existence becomes more positive because reality is experienced with more revealed goodness...
by teaching them to see Chabad through suspicion before they ever learned it from its own sources. That was not Torah greatness. Torah and ahavas Yisrael are united. Rav Shach z"l was a great Rosh Yeshiva and made...
It is the word people use for the Creator of the universe, the One Cause behind all existence. "If everything that exists were dependent on something else for existence, nothing would ever exist." — Maimonides But the...
They are a structure for how a human being stands inside reality. The Rambam gives the foundation: Reality has one Creator. The Creator is not physical. He does not change. He alone is worthy of prayer. Torah is true...
They become part of the emotional world your nervous system has to live inside. You did not choose every belief or survival pattern you inherited, but you can choose how you work with them now. By nervous system, I...
The Creator gives light, life, pleasure, meaning, and relationship. Human beings build the vessel. This began with Adam and Eve. They were close to The Creator, but after they 'felt separate through sin' they did not...
They can describe qualities: wise, kind, powerful, patient, giving, alive. They can describe experiences: joy, sadness, fear, pleasure, wonder. They can describe roles: king, creator, father, teacher, judge. But words...
Table of Contents – Or a much shorter version of the ideas in this post. Table of Contents A strange thing happens when a person starts believing things happen for no reason. The nervous system has a personality...
Table of Contents The Messiah will not only teach higher mystical ideas. Why Relationship Means Responsibility A Different Kind of Spirituality Mystical Ideas Must Change a Person Standing Before the King The Messiah...
But Jewish law still allows us to describe Him as King of the universe, because that is the relationship structure a human being can actually practice. A king is not just power. A true king creates belonging. A true...
being wrong can feel too humiliating to admit. So the mind protects the ego by accusing the other person of being tricky, manipulative, confusing, or unfair. Instead of saying: "Maybe I misunderstood." The person says...
They had just left slavery. They were still carrying fear, confusion, old survival habits, and generations of trauma. And still, they accepted a relationship with The Creator. That is a serious lesson. You do not need...
They affect how safe you feel. They affect how much you trust people. They affect whether you open up, repair, apologize, forgive, or stay defended. That is not religion. That is psychology. Psychology is a science...
and who you are capable of becoming. It shifts the mind from "what do I feel like doing?" to "what kind of person am I capable of becoming through this moment?" Browse hundreds of more guides to spirituality and...
https://nextself.ai/spir%E2%80%A6/rumination-isnt-problem-solving/ How to get out of feeling guilty? https://nextself.ai/%E2%80%A6/intense-guilt-doesnt-mean-youre-bad/ How does prayer transform hatred into awe and...
to believe in an Infinite Creator and still trust that He is good. That structure is relationship and responsibility. Not control. Not blind positivity. Not pretending suffering does not exist. Relationship and...
he asked to be buried in white shrouds. His teacher, Rabbi Yochanan, had asked to be buried in clothing that was between white and black. White symbolized being brought back among the righteous at the time of...
A person says: "I have gifts, but they were given to me. If someone else had my abilities, they would do even more with them." That is humility. Real humility does not make a person disappear. It makes a person more...
The World of Souls is Not an Escape From Responsibility The Talmud says: "Fortunate is the one who comes here [to the world of souls] with his Torah learning still in his hand." – Rabbi Alexandri appeared to R' Acha...
means transforming shame into responsibility and relationship by realizing: "Without belief in a good infinite Creator, shame often becomes too heavy to face. That is how human psychology works. The nervous system...
He is infinite, complete, beyond change, beyond need. But from our side, His presence in this world can be revealed or hidden. It can be shown clearly. Or it can be distorted by selfishness, cruelty, ego, and...
ignoring a problem can feel like a solution. "When depression or anxiety gets out of control, ignoring a problem can feel like a solution" Not because the person is lazy. Not because they do not care. Because their...
just because they know more. They live wisely when they develop the feelings that make wisdom possible. Awe is one of those feelings. Awe is not just inspiration. It is a blend of sadness, fear, and wonder. Sadness...
based on the Hebrew Bible, do not describe the Messiah as only a great righteous individual. The Talmud says: "If Moshiach is among the living, he is like Rabbi Yehudah HaNasi. If he is among those who have passed...
The Messiah is not described in the Talmud as a random righteous individual. The Talmud says: "If Moshiach is among the living, he is like Rabbi Yehudah HaNasi. If he is among those who have passed away, he is like...
Miracles are not just events. They are also reflections of what people are able to feel. – Based on a Midrash. A relationship with the Creator begins with awe. Awe is a blend of sadness, fear, and wonder. It is the...
Having an opinion does not mean you are in relationship with anyone. Survival mode can still have a lot of opinions. It can judge quickly. It can explain a lot. It can argue with confidence. It can sound engaged. But...
Your nervous system is always attaching to something. It has to. If it's not attached to awareness of the infinite Creator, it will attach to whatever feels strongest: fear control ego loops distraction love of money...
Many people say "everyone is greedy" as if it's just a fact. But that statement often hides something. It quietly removes responsibility from the people with the most power. Because if everyone is greedy, then no one...
does not hear "feelings" the way a healthy person does. They hear it as a threat. Because in their mindset, relationships are about control, not connection. So when someone starts talking about feelings, they don't...
about building a synagogue show that people need more than just the right ideas to feel the Creator's presence. The Creator is everywhere, but we are not aware everywhere, and our felt awareness changes throughout the...
as the leader of the generation, then who do they accept? After Moses, leadership didn't disappear. It's the rabbi whose teachings are guiding the most Jewish people toward real relationship with the Creator. I think...
will not just believe that the Creator exists. They will live with a felt sense that their life matters to the Creator, and that their personality matters too. Not just whether they technically did the right thing...
