Discover your next self
Not basic goodness. Goodness that can be recognized, chosen, received, and held without shame. But to understand suffering, we first have to understand what we mean by The Creator. The Infinite Creator is not a bigger...
because you are the same. You are finite. The Creator is infinite. You are created. The Creator is the source of everything. Like a subject and a king, you are not alike at all. So on your own, there is no natural...
But values are also shaped by emotional skill. Because you do not only choose from ideas. You choose from the emotional capacities you have developed. If you have little self-compassion, you may admire harshness...
-repair can only happen in the physical world. Because this is where you can still choose. This is where you can learn to confess: "I was wrong." "I want to begin again." "I want to be honest." "I want to repair."...
is baseless hatred pretending to be theology. It projects human rejection onto The Creator. It takes the logic of rivalry, rejection, and erasure, and imagines that The Creator relates that way too. As if The Creator...
That relationship is constant. But humanity does choose what kind of world He is relating to. A world shaped by cruelty or a world shaped by goodness. The Creator gives existence. Humans give it direction. "The...
It is made of movement. First there is pleasure. Pleasure is the basic goodness of life, the fact that existence can be felt as valuable, meaningful, or fulfilling. Then pleasure becomes desire. Desire is when life...
"Redemption isn't blocked by lack of miracles. It's blocked by lack of appreciation." It is blocked by lack of appreciation. Miracles can happen. Things can change. Relief can come. But if there is no appreciation…...
is not something we can measure like physical energy. But it behaves in a similar way: It doesn't feel like something that appears from nothing or disappears into nothing. It feels continuous. It feels like something...
"You do not need to be loved. You need to be impressive." So the child learns: I will only be enough if I become #1 at something. That is how pride gets confused with love. "Some children are taught, without anyone...
Do not begin by thinking of the Creator as a thing inside the universe. Not an object. Not a body. Not a force trapped inside nature. Not a bigger version of a person. The Creator is not one being among other beings...
Not because they don't want to. But because they never learned how. Their nervous system learned other strategies instead: control avoidance people-pleasing constant busyness. Security was never practiced. So they...
"In the world of souls your currency is compassion." In this world, money is currency. You use it to buy food, shelter, and comfort. But money does not travel with the soul. When a person leaves the physical world...
And not all narcissists are abusive. These ideas overlap. But they are not the same thing. Narcissism is mainly about self-image. Wanting admiration. Protecting ego. Needing validation. Abusive thinking is different...
First, they give themselves permission. That permission usually does not appear in one moment. It builds over time through the thoughts someone repeats to themselves. Sometimes the permission sounds like this: "She's...
and appointing are actually connected ideas. When something is counted, it means: 1. it matters 2. it is individually noticed 3. it has a role So counting leads to responsibility. In other words: • First you recognize...
of the Rebbe's teachings. Many of the Rebbe's talks lasted six hours or more, with breaks for melodies in between. On Shabbat and holidays there were no recorders. Reb Yoel and a small team had to listen carefully...
the Creator chose to bind Himself to a relationship with creation forever. That is not a real limitation on Him. It is an expression of His freedom, love, and faithfulness. "The creator chose to bind himself to a...
and they only know how to talk about one emotion. Excitement. During their physical life, excitement was the only feeling they allowed themselves to express. They did not practice talking about sadness, fear, shame...
of how they lived their life in the physical world. When the body is gone, a soul can see its life much more clearly. It can see the good it did, but also the harm it caused. For some souls, that realization is very...
A person can be very aware of what is happening around them. They may notice problems. They may notice other people's behavior. They may even analyze situations very well. But that does not automatically mean they are...
you do not become calmer. You become more overloaded. Suppression means pushing down emotions instead of processing them through compassion and healthy boundaries. Denial is often a form of suppression. Instead of...
A soul is a consciousness that understands, moves and feels, no physical pleasure or physical suffering. One of the experiences there is hearing the angels sing praises to The Creator. Angels constantly express awe of...
Marriage is not just a relationship in this world. It is a bond between souls. But only relationships built according to Torah form a lasting soul connection. If a relationship is outside that structure, it can exist...
